MARRIAGE IS FOR COMPANIONSHIP

Marriage doesn't work by proxy because the number one building block of marriage when God originated the union was/is COMPANIONSHIP. So, your availability is pertinent to its success.

"And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him help meet for him. " Genesis 2:18 KJV

It is the companionship that will deal with individuals "aloneness" not "loneliness" as some people put it today.

Without companionship, marriage is damage.

Without companionship, marriage is a mirage.

Without companionship, marriage becomes a contract instead of a covenant relationship.

Without companionship, marriage becomes a mystery the couple will never unravel till they destroy the union by their characters.

Without companionship, marriage breeds a seed of disconnect where complaints and dissatisfaction set in moving them towards the common phrase "irreconcilable differences" and before they know it "divorce" if something is not done.

Companionship is meant to be two people keeping one another's company because 2 is a company while 3 is a crowd. Companionship doesn't give room to intruders in the form of family members, friends, and not even your children(all these people are third party in your marriage) because marriage is the union of two with the exception of others. You can only talk to a counsellor if need be in your marriage not taking things to your family which might lead to what you don't bargain for. A professional counsellor is not biased, so you can speak to someone who will not be biased.
Companionship makes your spouse your best friend.

True companionship needs the following though not limited to them;

1. Staying in the same country
2. Staying in the same city
3. Living in the same house
4. Sleeping in the same room (nothing like this is daddy's room or mummy's room even if you're a Pastor that needs to pray every night and you don't want to disturb your spouse when it is time for your vigil, go to other room if need be)
5. Sleeping on the same bed and using the same duvet(covering cloth)
6. Talking together no matter how foolish it sounds, just say it. Your marriage will always ride on the wings of communication.
7. Laughing together
8. Crying together if the situation warrants that
9. Eating together inside the same plate as much as your schedule permits
10. Planning together
11. Spending together. Not having 'my' money but 'our' money which is the family's finance
12. Doing chores together without anything like this is a gender-specific work.
13. Raising the children together with one voice
14. Worshipping God together with your children in the same church. Praying and studying the Bible together
15. Having a good and quality God-glorifying sex😂😍 together.

See, if you haven't gotten the real companionship right, having sex as couples will just be dry and drab. It will look to you like it is just for procreation(childbearing). You will miss out of the real intimacy it breeds.

A lot of marriages are hitting the rock today because this singular ingredient and in fact the first link to a blissful marriage is missing.
Embrace the real companionship in your marriage.

Bisi Lanre-Ojolo

First empowerment project 'Communication Skills' for year 2017 at Hon. Saka Fafunmi's constituency office (College road, Ifako-Ijaye) on Thursday, 5th of January with the collaboration of Sola Opesan Brown of Miss Black Europe International.

GRATEFUL HEART TO HON. DAPO SAKA FAFUNMI AND MISS BLACK EUROPE
By 11.00am, on the 5th of January, 2017, I was still in my bed when Sola Brown called on phone if I could make it to the “empowerment training by the office of Hon. Dapo Saka Fafunmi, Lagos State House of Assembly in collaboration with Miss Black Europe International Scholarship Pageant and Improver Awards” by 1.00pm, which I replied a Yes. Though, I could not even think twice because I had nothing doing at that time. Moreover, the training was slated initially for 17th of December, 2016 and later adjourned due to some reasons known by the training planners.
I got to the venue, Hon. Fafunmi Constituency at the scheduled time where Sola Brown herself, welcomed the participants with a charming smile on her face and full embraces, thanking us that we could make it due to the short notification. In expressing a heart of gratefulness, she handed a #500 recharge card each to us as a gift.
First assignment was to bring out our Resumes/CVs, which we did. But she smiled and said that “our Resumes/CVs were unprofessional and with bad format and front”. And she corrected us and handed over some materials that can assist us in writing our Resumes/CVs.
However, Sola Brown defined “communication as the process in which information, ideas and understanding are shared among two or more people”. She made us to understand the power or strength of an effective communication skill. She also stated and explained the kinds/methods of communication. Which are: Verbal (talking…), Non-verbal (eye contact, posture…) and Writing. She also used the word “HAIL” to explain what communication entails. That is, communicating to others should be based on your: H-onesty; A-uthencity; I-ntegrity and; L-ove.
In addition, Sola Brown quoted some quotes which are very essential to life journey. Quotes such as: “You are the boss of yourself”, “Happiness is very essential in life irrespective of what you are doing”, “Brand yourself”, “Be principled”, “In chatting/texting mails or messages, do not abbreviate” among others.
Finally, the training ended with photography, which was captured by Sola Brown’s daughter, a photographer and model.
In conclusion, just saying thank you will never repay your kindness. For all you do, for who you are, I will be forever grateful, you are in my life. Words cannot express my feelings, nor my thanks for all your support. Someday, I will give back what you have given me. Your thoughtfulness will always be remembered. Thank You Hon. Saka Fafunmi! Thank you Sola Brown!

  
OLAMIJI ADEWALE

Lesson for the parents

Pay attention to what they don't say. Pay attention to long absences and self isolation. Let your babies be clingy EVEN at family gatherings. If they don't feel right, don't force them to "go and play." If they are uneasy with certain people, look into it. It may not be molestation; it may be negative talk, intimidation or other kinds of abuse. Watch your kids and don't ignore them. And plz, plz don't assume that just because family is all that's there that they can't be victimized.

Words Of Wisdom

"More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren't so busy denying them." - Harold J. Smith

If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.

Those who walk with God reach their destination.

When you are down to nothing, God is up to something.

Growing old is inevitable, growing up is optional.

How can anyone ever love you for who you are if you become someone else to be with them?

You can only see others as clearly as you see yourself.

"Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are." - John Wooden

The world reflects what you need to see, not only what you want to see.

"The price of greatness is responsibility."- Sir Winston Churchill

Life isn’t about what happens to us. It’s about how we perceive what happens to us.

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim; accept no ones definition of your life; define yourself."- Harvey Fierstein

A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

"Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain, and most fools do." - Benjamin Franklin

"Everything you’re looking for lies behind the mask you wear." - Stephen C. Paul

"When you give up your own truth to win at someone else’s game everyone loses." - Stephen C. Paul

"Do what you can, with what you have, where you are."- Theodore Roosevelt

"Your relationships reflect your fears and limits. How can anyone ever give you what you won’t allow?" - Stephen C. Paul

Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.

"The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way." - Karen S. Magee

10 Facts About Boko Haram Leader, Abubakar Shekau

It seems like very little is known about this leader that has sparked terror in the heart of Nigerians and stirred chaos all over the world. Abubakar Shekau, the leader of Boko Haram, translating "Western education is sinful' is known as a master of disguise. Here are 10 facts about him.

1) RELIGIOUS SCHOLAR: Shekau was born in Shekau village that borders Niger. He studied under a cleric and then attended Borno State College of Legal and Islamic Studies for higher studies on Islam. That's why he's also known as 'Darul Tawheed,' which translates to an expert in monotheism, or the oneness of Allah.

2) POLYGOT: He speaks multiple languages (Hausa, Arabic, Kanuri, and Fulani) except English, which makes sense since he's claiming 'western education is sinful'.

3) LONER: He doesn't speak directly with his own members; he communicates through very few selected confidants. As a master of disguise, he uses different aliases: He uses many aliases: Abu Bakr Skikwa, Imam Abu Bakr Shiku, and Abu Muhammad Abu Bakr Bin Muhammad Al Shakwi Al Muslimi Bishku e.t.c.

4) MERCILESS: After the assassination of the founder of Boko Haram, Mohammed Yusuf and approximately 700 followers, Shekau has spared no one in his killings: children, police officers, students, Christians, government workers, and innocent citizens.

5) ELUSIVE: No one knows how old he really is. The U.S. State Department has Shekau's year of birth listed as 1965, 1969 and 1975.

6) CARRIED OUT HIS WICKED THREATS: It was in May 2013 that Shekau first announced in a video that Boko Haram would start kidnapping girls. The kidnappings, he said, were retaliation for Nigerian security forces nabbing the wives and children of group members. The most horrifying instance was last month's abduction of 276 girls from a girl's school. "I abducted your girls," he taunted with a chilling smile in a new video that surfaced this week. "There is a market for selling humans. Allah says I should sell. He commands me to sell."

7) REPORTED DEAD SEVERAL TIMES: The Nigerian military has touted Shekau's death several times, only to retract its claim after he appeared alive and vibrant in propaganda videos.

8) EFFECTIVE RECRUITER: Shekau has done a good job of convincing residents that the powers in Abuja are corrupt and a better system of government would be a strict enforcement of Islamic Sharia law across Nigeria. And his promise, coupled with a weapon and a license to plunder, has been enticing to hundreds of young men.
Also, he seems to have informal links with militant Islamist groups in Mali and Niger.

9) GOVERNMENT IRRESPONSIVE: The country's own Human Rights Commission last year accused the military of arbitrary killings, torture and rape in its campaign against the group. This makes for fertile territory for Boko Haram.

10) $7 MILLION BOUNTY ON HIS HEAD: Shekau has been on the radar of U.S. officials since he came to power in 2009. Last June, the United States put a bounty on him, offering a reward of up to $7 million for information leading to his location.

Shekau continues to hit Nigeria with his brutal blows (bombings, rape, kidnappings, killings) and the effect is being felt all over the world. Several Nigerians gather to protest for the safety of their loved ones in Canada, Europe, U.S., and in other countries, hoping for the safe return of the kidnapped schoolgirls.

Although Nigeria has been reported as Africa's #1 economy, its lack of security enforcement has resurfaced and drawn shame to the power-housed country.

TOP 100 INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES

1. Life isn’t about getting and having, it’s about giving and being. –Kevin Kruse

2. Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. –Napoleon Hill

3. Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. –Albert Einstein

4. Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. –Robert Frost

5. I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse. –Florence Nightingale

6. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. –Wayne Gretzky

7. I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. –Michael Jordan

8. The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. –Amelia Earhart

9. Every strike brings me closer to the next home run. –Babe Ruth

10. Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement. –W. Clement Stone

11. We must balance conspicuous consumption with conscious capitalism. –Kevin Kruse

12. Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans. –John Lennon

13. We become what we think about. –Earl Nightingale

14.Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover. –Mark Twain

15.Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. –Charles Swindoll

16. The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. –Alice Walker

17. The mind is everything. What you think you become. –Buddha

18. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. –Chinese Proverb

19. An unexamined life is not worth living. –Socrates

20. Eighty percent of success is showing up. –Woody Allen

21. Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. –Steve Jobs

22. Winning isn’t everything, but wanting to win is. –Vince Lombardi

23. I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. –Stephen Covey

24. Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up. –Pablo Picasso

25. You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. –Christopher Columbus

26. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. –Maya Angelou

27. Either you run the day, or the day runs you. –Jim Rohn

28. Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right. –Henry Ford

29. The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. –Mark Twain

30. Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. –Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
31. The best revenge is massive success. –Frank Sinatra

32. People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily. –Zig Ziglar
33. Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. –Anais Nin

34. If you hear a voice within you say “you cannot paint,” then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced. –Vincent Van Gogh
35. There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. –Aristotle

36. Ask and it will be given to you; search, and you will find; knock and the door will be opened for you. –Jesus

37. The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. –Ralph Waldo Emerson

38. Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. –Henry David Thoreau

39. When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, I used everything you gave me. –Erma Bombeck

40. Few things can help an individual more than to place responsibility on him, and to let him know that you trust him. –Booker T. Washington

41. Certain things catch your eye, but pursue only those that capture the heart. – Ancient Indian Proverb
42. Believe you can and you’re halfway there. –Theodore Roosevelt

43. Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear. –George Addair

44. We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. –Plato

45. Teach thy tongue to say, “I do not know,” and thous shalt progress. –Maimonides

46. Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. –Arthur Ashe

47. When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life. –John Lennon

48. Fall seven times and stand up eight. –Japanese Proverb

49. When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us. –Helen Keller

50. Everything has beauty, but not everyone can see. –Confucius

51. How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. –Anne Frank

52. When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. –Lao Tzu

53. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. –Maya Angelou

54. Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions. –Dalai Lama

55. If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask what seat! Just get on. –Sheryl Sandberg

56. First, have a definite, clear practical ideal; a goal, an objective. Second, have the necessary means to achieve your ends; wisdom, money, materials, and methods. Third, adjust all your means to that end. –Aristotle

57. If the wind will not serve, take to the oars. –Latin Proverb

58. You can’t fall if you don’t climb. But there’s no joy in living your whole life on the ground. –Unknown

59. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained. –Marie Curie

60. Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. –Les Brown

61. Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful. –Joshua J. Marine

62. If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else. –Booker T. Washington

63. I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do. –Leonardo da Vinci

64. Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless. –Jamie Paolinetti

65. You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing, no one to blame. –Erica Jong

66. What’s money? A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do. –Bob Dylan

67. I didn’t fail the test. I just found 100 ways to do it wrong. –Benjamin Franklin

68. In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure. –Bill Cosby

69. A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. – Albert Einstein

70. The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person who is doing it. –Chinese Proverb

71. There are no traffic jams along the extra mile. –Roger Staubach

72. It is never too late to be what you might have been. –George Eliot

73. You become what you believe. –Oprah Winfrey

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74. I would rather die of passion than of boredom. –Vincent van Gogh

75. A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty. –Unknown

76. It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings. –Ann Landers

77. If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money. –Abigail Van Buren

78. Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs. –Farrah Gray

79. The battles that count aren’t the ones for gold medals. The struggles within yourself–the invisible battles inside all of us–that’s where it’s at. –Jesse Owens

80. Education costs money. But then so does ignorance. –Sir Claus Moser

81. I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear. –Rosa Parks

82. It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. –Confucius

83. If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough. –Oprah Winfrey

84. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. –Dalai Lama
85. You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have. –Maya Angelou

86. Dream big and dare to fail. –Norman Vaughan

87. Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. –Martin Luther King Jr.

88. Do what you can, where you are, with what you have. –Teddy Roosevelt

89. If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. –Tony Robbins

90. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning. –Gloria Steinem

91. It’s your place in the world; it’s your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live. –Mae Jemison

92. You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don’t try. –Beverly Sills

93. Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. –Eleanor Roosevelt

94. Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be. –Grandma Moses

95. The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me. –Ayn Rand

96. When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. –Henry Ford

97. It’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years. –Abraham Lincoln

98. Change your thoughts and you change your world. –Norman Vincent Peale

99. Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing. –Benjamin Franklin

100. Nothing is impossible, the word itself says, “I’m possible!” –Audrey Hepburn

101. The only way to do great work is to love what you do. –Steve Jobs

102. If you can dream it, you can achieve it. –Zig ZiglarTop of Form

17 Incredible Facts About WhatsApp.

1. WhatsApp founded in 2009 by formerYahoo! employees
Brian Acton and Jan Koum .
2. Sequoia Capital invested $8 million in 2011
3. 70% of users are active on a daily basis
4. WhatsApp says they are adding 1 million users
everyday.
5. They currently employ 50 people.
6. 32 engineers working on WhatsApp, i.e. one engineer is
responsible for 14 million active users!!
7. 400 million active users in December.
8. Rising to 450 million active users according to
Facebook’s press release.
9. The app is the 5th most downloaded app on Android .
10. WhatsApp doesn’t sell ads and zero have appeared on
the app
11. Twitter and Facebook had the chance to hire founder
Brian Acton but didn’t!
12. The total value of the deal: $19 Billion ($4 billion in
cash, $12 billion in stock, and $3 billion in restricted
stock) .
13. $1 Billion Break-up fee should the deal not go
through.
14. Jan Koum keeps a note from Brian taped to his desk
that reads “No Ads! No Games! No Gimmicks!” To keep
them focused on building a pure messaging experience.
15. WhatsApp spent ZERO cash on marketing, PR and user
acquisition.
16. WhatsApp’s messaging volume is approaching the
entire global telecom SMS volume
17. On Dec 31st 2013 users sent a total 54 billion
messages during the day (3x increase from 2012).